Saturday, 27 November 2010

It's a pantomime!

Life is hectic here right now. ( I know, I seem to say that quite often ......) in amongst the usual working and daily hamster wheeling , of course, we have all of the Christmas preparations.
 This weekend will see our house all decorated! I can't wait!
 Next weekend we will be buying the tree! I LOVE choosing our tree!
I have Christmas cards to make and send. I haven't even started yet)
I am taking part in two holiday gift exchanges this year. I haven't mailed a thing and I still need to make two things!
I have around 80% of my gifts still to buy and or make.
I also have all of the food preperations, organising, writing lists, shoppping.

In amongst all of this craziness we literally have a pantomime. My fantastically talented boy auditioned for a part in a pantomime and got it! It is in a real theatre and everything! This is a big deal for us!

This pantomime has 2 performances, almost every day throughout December. Fraser will be taking part in one performance each day!!   This equals a lot of travelling as the Theatre is not in our town, it isn't far away, only 10 miles. But trying to squeeze this into an already full day is proving to be tough going. And , we are only at the rehearsals stage!

Luckily I have an amazing family who are always willing to step up and help out in any way possible. They have all been taking a turn at being taxi for Fraser and will continue to do so once we are into the full performance schedule. I am so grateful to them all.

 Opening night is on Wednesday Dec 1st and my boy is on opening night!

I am so proud.

By Christmas day I may not still be standing , I will definitely not have a shred of sanity left. But I will be super proud.

The whole family have tickets to go and see him on Christmas eve. So long as I have my cards mailed, presents wrapped and my Christmas dinner bought, by then,  I will be a very happy lady indeed.

So, I shall apologise in advance to everyone. Your cards will be late, your gifts will come with much love, but they may not make it in time, my blog posts may be sparse.

I will do my best! I will take lots of photos and document what I can. I will be happy!

After all, it is the most wonderful time of the year!

One thing is for sure, it is Christmas and in true LeeAnn style

I have definitely bitten off more than I can chew :-)

Saturday, 20 November 2010

These are a few of my favourite things

Ribbons and fabric in fun festive colours

Seasonal  magazines with hundreds of decorating and crafting tips

Bundles of gift wrap, happily in the corner, just waiting to be shared

Warm , cosy naps

Companionable walks on grey days, wearing new coats and snug , woolly hats

And of course shiny, new red boots

Saying goodbye to the last of the watery afternoon sunshine

Before heading home. Where most of my favourite things are.
Today I am excited! I have been invited to a friend's house for an afternoon of crafting.
There might just be time to collect another of my favourite things on the way. Well, what is a Christmas crafting afternoon with no gingerbread latte?

Monday, 15 November 2010

Getting in the mood

One little bit at a time

40 sleeps Peeps!
x x

Thursday, 11 November 2010

Good Mummy v Bad Mummy

Does anyonne else do this? Every night when I fall into bed my mind goes back over my day. I play the good Mummy v Bad Mummy game. Some days the guilty throat restricting feeling is there before I even have to look for it. But some nights I lie there, looking back.

 I will say to Murray - I was bad Mummy today and it makes me sad.

Bad Mummy days are thankfully fairly rare. However, pure, full on good mummy days should be more that they are.

 Bad Mummy is the busy woman with no patience. The one who shouts. The one who throws  clothes around her pre - teens bedroom in frustration when we already need to have left and he can't find his shoes. Bad Mummy hides in her kitchen at the laptop, eating biscuits, while she has bribed her littlest offspring ( with biscuits) to watch 15 mins of Mickey mouse/phineas and ferb/handy manny. Bad Mummy yells down  the stairs when her children are squabbling and bickering - " I don't care who is doing what! Just stop it!" Mostly bad Mummy is negative and snippy and everything a good Mummy should never be.
Bad Mummy is disorganised, she forgets that the Nursery/school pictures are being taken and sends her children to school/nursery with unbrushed hair and their vest on backwards.

Good Mummy is positive, she makes time to sit and do puzzles. She listens, she gets down to her childs level and speaks in a calm voice. She is positive and smily. She is fun ,even when Bad Mummy would be grumpy, good Mummy can find the tickles and fun in the situation and the tension blows over much quicker. Good mummy is organised. She offers good choices and makes better ones.

Good Mummy is hard work.

I have been taking a good look at my mothering lately. I have been feeling bad about a lot of my choices and reactions. My children are special and they deserve the best.

For me, personally, babies are easy. I found it all so effortless. I knew what they needed, I could soothe them quickly and efficiently. I didn't often feel overwhelmed or stressed out. But after they hit four I just seem to be missing that part of my brain, I have to work at it so much more.
 Parenting a pre teen is hard work, I'm not going to lie to all of you people out there who have babies/under fives. It gets worse. You think terrible twos are bad?? Imagine that same toddler with a full vocabulary and a whole 11 years of their own attitude/opinions and baggage. We haven't even hit the teens yet and I am lost!
Fraser is a good kid, he is never intentionally nasty or bad, he just talks himself into all trouble. Good Mummy , when dealing with Fraser, is mostly about staying calm when he isn't. Being patient with his lack of motivation/respect./will to do anything. Bad Mummy forgets to praise him and she tends to fly off the handle.

K's behaviour has been quite trying lately. She is a good girl and is usually fairly easy to parent. But lately she has been really loud, she refuses to listen to anything. Her sleep has always been sensitive and we are feeling the nap beng dropped and now the time change! Boy are we feeling it.
Bad Mummy shouts , bad Mummy gives time outs without quiet, firm explanations. Bad mummy forgets to talk and explain things, she is always moaning about needing to hurry up. Good Mummy remembers to explain what we are doing and why we need to hurry. Good Mummy remembers to be calm , firm and gentle when timing K out. Good Mummy remembers that K is four and needs Mummy to spend a large chunk of the day playing with her.

This week I have been taking a long hard look at this situation, which is what has brought me to typing this post, I think.
Why does K not listen anymore? Why is she being so loud? Why do I have to ask her 3 or 4 times before she will do any thing?
I am busy just now. At parts of our day we have very little time to do an awful lot. I get frustrated when no one listens or follows directions. I have to get into a zone, just to get everything done.

This week I tuned out of my zone and into my home and do you know what I heard?
Often they will have to  say my name 3 times before I tune in to hear what they are saying.
Some days K will be told many times to wait a minute. Sometimes that minute never comes.
Some times I will say no when I could easily say yes, sometimes I just don't want to do something.
Sometimes I show the selfish traits that I try to teach my children not to have.

Yes I am busy, but really? If I get frustrated repeating myself 3 times then I have to realise that they do too! I wonder what will happen if I can say, yes I will be there right away. Will K turn the volume back down once she isn't having to fight for my attention? I need to remember to fill their mummy cups whenever I can. I need to remember to be present with them.

I have gone to bed for the past 3 nights and felt like good mummy.

 I can't say bad mummy will be banished forever. She does help me realise where and when I need to make changes. I try to remember that no Mummy is perfect. But we should always try our best.
At least my children can learn from me that it is ok to make mistakes, we can say sorry and forgive the people we love for their failings .

Very soon my boy will be 12 and my baby will be 5. I will try to have as many good Mummy moments as I can,  in this next year of their lives.

This photo was taken over 4 years ago and I can remember the day like it was yesterday.
They grow up so fast. Must treasure every moment.

Wednesday, 10 November 2010

Paying it forward

Just wanting to remind my pay it forward girls that I haven't forgotton about their gifts! As I know you both I will send it with your Christmas cards, will that be ok?? I will get a hold of you on Facebook or something  to double check your addresses and then pop them in the mail within the next week.

Here is the link from November last year, gasp!! I can't believe it was so long ago! I was intending on getting them out in the beginning of the year. Sorry for taking so long! x

Sunday, 7 November 2010

Sunday in memory lane

I wish you could have seen the leaves. They were just constantly fluttering around us like it was snowing.

Only one duck, but he scored! All of the yummy biscuit all to himself.

I used to go here as a child while spending days with my Grandparents, my sister and I would walk to the local estate to feed the ducks and walk through the trees.. When I was around 13 we moved to a different area and I haven't been back since. What a wonderful trip down memory lane. I think this is the first of many trips back to one of my favourite places.

Linking up (very late) with

Unknown Mami

Have a look at Sundays from all around the globe.

PS. Fraser- when you look back at this , remember you were with Grandad Jimmy all day and didn't want to join us x

Saturday, 6 November 2010

First Annual pumpkin patch

We found one! What a treat! Pumpkin patches are not common here at all but we found a local farm park who offered halloween activities and pick your own pumpkins.

This was our first outing with the cousins all together and I am hoping it is the first of many years of halloween fun to come.

I have dreamed my whole life of being two things. A Mum and an Auntie. The reality is so much better than I could ever have imagined. These kids are my kids and I could just burst.


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